Goals and Fear

If you realize how important goals are to you creating success and happiness for yourself, I think that many more people would be more goal focused. The major reason people don't set goals is Fear.

My interpretation of fear is:

F=FALSE

E= Experiences

A= Appearing

R= Real

We set up in our minds about other people's criticism, that they will reject us. How many times do our parents tell us, ” don't be ridiculous, you can't do that”? We naturally want to please our parents, so we stopped doing it. We have our dreams crushed. As a child were you criticized or discouraged?

The way to overcome fear of criticism is to keep your goal to yourself; don't tell people, except your boss, your partner, and anyone else who you may need to help you achieve those goals. And, of course probably the biggest fear of all is fear of failure and being laughed at. This keeps so many people frozen and paralyzed from taking action.

How can you have success without failing? I often say in our seminars, that Thomas Edison attempted to make the light bulb 10,000 times before he succeeded. He was asked by a journalist, “Mr. Edison, you failed 10,000 times to make the light bulb,” to which Mr. Edison replied, “I didn't fail, I just learned 10,000 ways of how not to make a light bulb."

I leave you with this thought that I taught my children, and which has served me well in my life personally...

If you don't make a mistake, you don't make anything.

Please tell me who crashed your dreams?
How do you feel when you make a mistake?