16 April
2010
Written by Brian Martin
Self doubt and confidence are major issues in people’s lives.
Self doubt is set up through negative thinking. One of the ways that I have learned to eliminate negative thoughts for my mind and trained my mind to run in a way that works for me, is to focus on my blessings each morning before I get out of bed. Please try this. Write them down. Do not focus on what you want, or have not got, just focus on your blessings.
In the course of my study and observation, it would appear that if a person is curious in asking questions, they are quite often a self-motivated learner. My 90-year-old going on 20-year-old Japanese mother is unbelievably curious. For all of her amazing wisdom of life (she worked until she was 88 years old), she is always learning.
In many of our trainings, we use an alternative model which we call ‘The Success Model’. There is also the traditional model, and one of the points made in the traditional success model is Know the Answer. This usually means that you get recognition from either your boss, your teacher, or your parents, and you get labeled 'smart', 'clever', 'whizz kid', and often singled out for further opportunities. In the alternative model, we have a box that says Know the Question.
What we’ve found is that it usually opens people up to possibility thinking. For example: ‘What do I want my life to look like in three years time?' 'How can I solve this challenge?’ 'How can I be successful?' It seems to alert the brain to resources both internal and external which were not being noticed before that question was asked.
If you practice this regularly, you will find that you get answers to what you want to know in many cases. The point is to know the question that will open up possibilities for your life.
This does require practice, it is not instant gratification.